Thursday, December 4, 2008

19 Years

ago I had a 9 lb 6 oz baby boy. We named him Mitchell Ross. He had super chubby cheeks and dark hair. Today he lives in the Milwaukee area and is finishing school at Milwaukee High School of the Arts. I miss him a great deal. He's been going through a lot since his dad kicked him out of the house a year ago. He's lived with a few different friend's families and is on the move again. I hope this settles down for him he needs a stable place to stay and one less thing to worry about. Mitchell I want to tell you to keep growing and moving forward. Do not let anyone or anything hold you back from your dreams. You are always welcome here, I know you want to stay there with your friends, but you need a safe stable place to stay too. You are so very loved and missed!

Here is a layout I did a few months back:


One year ago today Tim had surgery to remove the rectal tumor. It was successful! After his wound healed he had 6 weeks of radiation together with chemotherapy. Here is a LO I did in May using the Cancer Cannot poem the photo was just after he was done with the radiation and chemo in April of this year.At this point we were just happy that he was done. Well the PET scan showed that he had lesions on his lungs. The cancer had metastisized to his lungs and he was looking at more chemo. So that's where we're at now him getting his 5 or 6th round of chemo since he started back in late June of 2007. Tim is only going to be 45 on Sunday Dec. 7 and was only 43 when he was diagnosed. The surgeon was surprised that someone his age had a cancer that usually happens to someone who is in their 70's. It just goes to show that a colonoscopy should be required before age 50 and definitely earlier if you have cancer in your family. The surgeon said that the tumor was probably growing in Tim for 7-10 years since it was quite large. We have decided to be positive and take each day one day at a time. There is so much negativity out there and it's just way better to remain positive.

I'm still feeling really miserable. I'm starting to cough a lot and still have trouble breathing through my nose. I really don't want to miss the Christmas Crop on Saturday, but do not want to infect anyone else with this. I have switched to drinking hot tea and it's soothing my sore throat that sure does feel better! Well think positive thoughts that I'll make it to the crop. So much to do in so little time...YIKES!

10 comments:

Angela V. said...

I hope your son makes out ok. It must be tough when the only family you live close to kicks you out of the house. I hope he finds some stability quickly.
Reading about your husband made me a little sad this morning. He is just too young to be having these issues. I am glad to hear that he is doing well at the moment and I wish you both the strength you need to endure.
Your layouts are beautiful, and I especially love the flourishes you used on the 3rd one. Lovely.
Hang in there, you'll be (hopefully) feeling fine for your crop on Saturday! I'll keep my fingers crossed!

Joani McDonald said...

Carmen - you have a nice looking young man there, best wishes to him for the future.

About Tim, I'm sorry to hear. Cancer is such a bad thing - and I will add him (and you) to my prayers to give (you both) the strength to fight this.

Remember, chicken & stars soup and you'll be fine for Saturday!
Hugs,
Joani

Catherine said...

Carmen, Happy Birthday to you son and he sure is a good looking man :) Hope all is well with him.

And as for Tim, i'm just glad that they found it on time and with all the stuff that he's going through, he'll pass all that and you guys can look back and say "WE DID IT!"

And hope you feel better soon :)

Tim said...

Angela V, after reading your comments I say this. Suffering through the Cancer Diagnosis, Pre-operative Chemotherapy, Surgery and finally the Post-operative Radiation and more Chemotherapy has made me a different person all together. Don't be sad, think of something that makes you laugh, laugh and cry then laugh some more. The time we have is far too short to worry about the little things. Laughter makes the time a little more bearable for us all. :)
Joani: Thanks for the prayers, every little bit helps. Strength in others and the support of those that I love has also been a great help.
Cathrine: HUGS to you. I know that when the raod finally ends that we all will rejoice and breath a little easier. In the mean time, finding the Love and Support of Friends and Family helps.
Happy Holidays to All and to All a Good Night, Eh!
Tim :)

Estee said...

Hello my dear friend. How are you? Are you feeling better? I am thinking of you and your family. I hope that you are well. (((hugs)))

Anonymous said...

Oh hon, I'm sorry you're going through so much right now.

I hope that your son finds his place, soon. I think that is what all young adults are trying to do, find the place where they fit in.

I think all three of the LOs are fabulous. I really like the "Don't Blink" one, and it brought tears to my eyes, to think that my child would be growing so quick.

I cannot believe that your husband was so young when diagnose, that is crazy. You are absolutely right, people should be more aware of cancer and more intent on getting checked out. Thanks for making me more aware!

I hope you feel better soon, I am thinking about you.

Anonymous said...

hi I am new here to your blog and really enjoy your layouts they are wonderful, your son is a nice looking young man!! I am so sorry to hear about your hubby, Praise God it was caught and we all pray for you and Tim as you battle this battle together, and come out even stronger then you are now. Thoughts and prayers are wtih you! Thanks for sharing your pages with us. blessings to you and yours Renee

Staci Compher said...

.......hope things work out for your son...I bet this will turn hime into a strong independent man....and as far as your hubby..you're such a strong woman, and such a great attitude towards everything you guys have been through...and I want you to know that I always appreciate your kind and encouraging words that you leave on my blog....

ValAnn said...

Carmen - that was such a moving blog, and my thoughts and prayers are with you, your son and your husband. After reading your husband's comments to your blog, I wanted to cry. He sounds like he has such a fabulous handle on the situation and must be an incredible man. You are blessed even through your burdens!

Carolyn Bounds said...

You know my love, thoughts, and prayers are with you, Tim and your boys. It has been that way ever since I learned about all that you have been and are going through. I believe medicine is only part of the cure and a strong, positive outlook is the other. Tim sounds like such a wonderful, optimistic man, and I know you are the same...so, the two of you will survive this trying time together. The two of you are such an inspiration!!!

Love ya!
Carolyn