Yesterday I spoke to Tim's sister who happens to be a nurse. She wanted to talk to Tim and he was napping. I didn't want to get him up just yet. So we talked a bit and she said somethings that I couldn't believe. Do people just not think? She said that Tim needed to stay on Chemo. Uh Duh, he started getting Chemo again today. She said it would just kill Mom. Okay so what about the rest of us? I went on to say that some people for whatever reason are not able to still do chemo and have survived for many years. She said she didn't want to take that chance. She says she doesn't want to lose her baby brother. I also mentioned that the Chemo Oncologist wasn't very computer literate and had never shown us the PET scans until last week. He only went by what was on the report. This time we were going to ask to see the scans. Well without us asking he showed us the scans on the computer. He said that the report said the lesions had grown and when he looked at the scan and the scale he said they were only 1 cm not 2.5- 4 cm of the report. So I mentioned this to her and said that was a pretty significant discrepancy. She said I shouldn't hold it against the dr. that he isn't very computer literate. I said when there is a discrepancy like that that's too big of a discrepancy for me. I said before he just went by whatever was on the report so how are we to know who is correct? If you're going to show a patient something like this, then you need to know what you're talking about. Tim is lucky to have a computer literate radiology oncologist. He showed us the first PET scan on a 24" monitor and showed us a couple of spots on his lungs that he wasn't concerned about. On the 29th Tim sees this Dr. and hopefully we'll know more. I mentioned this to his sister as well. Our conversation ended with me saying I'm sure Tim will stay on chemo as long as he has a job and health insurance. She ended with saying even Chemotherapy is a crap shoot. Okay, so why did she change her attitude at the end by saying it was a crap shoot? Geez.
I woke up Tim after taking the pictures of the items I made. I was in the middle of that when his sister called. I told him the gist of the conversation and he said it sounded like she was on her high horse again. I said I told her you're doing fine. Matter-of-fact that with dealing with cancer, the house we live in, me being jobless and 3 kids that drive us nuts at times, we are actually doing pretty good.
Tim tried calling his sister after we ate supper. He couldn't get a hold of her. So he thought maybe she had the night shift at work. She finally called while I was talking long distance to a friend of mine. I switched over and told her Tim would call her back. When Tim and his sister finally did talk she said to him Don't let Carmen talk you out of Chemo. WTF!!!!!!!!!!!! I said not only is that stupid to say that I would even try to talk you out of getting Chemo, but also says that she doesn't think Tim can think for himself. That he can be talked into or out of things.
Onto happier things here are a few photos of the stationery boxes that I have been working on. I did not do them just like the instructions. I used a mini comp book for an address book.


8 comments:
I just love all the little stuff you put together...all of it is terrific! I know you are frustrated with you sister-in-law, but I am sure she means well...that said, I am also sure you are doing what you feel is in your family's best interest. I wish you nothing but the best and I hope your husband knows how much you care for his well being.
Wow! Those are some awesome projects you've done. Especially the Bra & Panty card!
Time flies...I know what you mean. Best wishes for Tim! LOVE LOVE the bra and panites card!!
OOh Family!!!!!!
Love what you have made, I would put some rope handles for the boy box!!!!
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Your scrap projects are the best- I love them, especially the bra and panties cards! Do you use a template for them?
Good luck with the interview process and with Tim's progress!!!
Your projects are great. It is nice to make something to rid yourself of some negativity.
It could be that your SIL just does not know what to do about herself with Tim's condition that is why she is fickle. Anyways, if she is not paying your bills, then she has no say.
It is ok if you are a slacker!
I still think you are pretty cool.
Good luck with the job hunt.
Very cute!
I bet your brother will love his card! I know my brothers would get a kick out of it. Adorable!
Jane
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